MARION — On March 20, ORR School District Psychologist, Phil Allessi taught parents of ORR students that understanding the brain, breathing and a sense of humor are the best way to combat school stress. 

The psychologist visited the Sippican Village Estates in Marion to talk about stress in school children and how parents and guardians can help kids feel better by using a range of easy-to-learn techniques.

The event was part of a series of family-friendly gatherings organized by Sippican School’s AnchOR program led by fourth grade teacher Lisa Dix and Kindergarten teacher Lisa Horan. Childcare and activities for kids were provided by student volunteers from ORRHS. Rose and Vicki’s donated pizzas for event attendees. 

Allessi outlined the origins of stress in grownups and children, explaining how and why these feelings arise and the words to describe them. Then, he explained specific regions of the brain associated with different impulses and behaviors.

“Anxiety is [often defined as] an irrational response to perceived stress. ‘Worry’ might be a better word to use with your kids when talking about their fears,” Allessi said. 

He talked about the many sources of stress experienced by young people in Kindergarten through grade 12 including social situations, academic challenges , athletic challenges, and more.

He outlined how different parts of the brains are responsible for reactions and recommended specific kinds of activities and new habits which would help children relax and do better in school and beyond.

Allessi regularly meets with students at the high school and teaches mindfulness (controlled breathing/meditation) and yoga (controlled breathing with movement) during his workshops to students across the Old Rochester Regional District.

With a passion for how the brain works and many stress-relieving meditation methods, he talks most about the importance of all students getting to know their breath and learn to focus on it as a method for reducing stress before tests, athletic competitions, and more.

“Anyone can focus on their breath. Let’s face it, if you aren’t breathing, you don’t have to worry about anxiety,” Allessi said. 

His sense of humor is essential to helping student and families with stress.